How to Deal with Your Obsession?
See you are going through tough times in your life,
something happens. Whether it’s a breakup or it’s a problem related to your
work, you can called this is an obsession. But you allow to obsess about
something it’s really bothering you. But what you can’t do is talk too much
about it to your friends. This is seems like worst thing ever happened probably
won’t be.
Even if you think it’s just awful and you go on and on
everyday to your friends. Like something worst happens two months from now. And
then they don’t gonna listen because they will be like she is always and
always bring up her problems and they are tired of it, then they just gonna
blow you off. So then what you can do? And you need someone to listen to you.
And you say yes, friends should be sounding bored. There are points in
friendship and every friendship is different. You probably have one friend, who
doesn’t talk too much about his or her problems. Ok then don’t you talk to
him/her about your problems. About as much he talks to you about hers. But say
there is another friend who constantly coming up to you, then ok you have
license to talk to him/her.
Say it’s a breakup and you really upset. In first two weeks
of breakup you can talk to your friends once a day, every day for two weeks.
And if they don’t understand then they are not your friends. But after two
weeks, you can only talk about this person once in every four days, then after
a month only once a week and after two months not at all. You might be saying
that why you should look at the calendar before talking to them because if you
don’t you’re gonna think oh, I am really upset today so I think I need to talk
more about this today. And this never ends, that’s your friend gonna think. So
give yourself actual days to talk about him/her.
Whatever the problem is work problem or may be school
problem. Again just right it down the days you’re going to do this with your
friends. And the other days internalize the talk, talk to yourself about your
problems. Try to solve it out in your head. Come up with the hobbies, something
you can expense some energy. Do something else to get out of your problems
likes talked to loved one. But don’t talk to the same people every day about
the same problem.
Go with these rules. It’s not just help to your friends,
it’s to help you. So you can get over this. You are not going to allow yourself
to talk about this problem. Because at some point, you got to move forward. Yes
it happened, whatever has happened but you have to learn from it and go on. And
if you talk about the problem every day, you are not letting it go. So by
following this protocol, then you gonna get over it faster. I am not saying
one problem is not worse than another. But you have to learn from your
mistakes, your ordeals whether it’s a relationship going bad. You are not
gonna date someone like that again and think about all the things that went
wrong and why? Change your ways and learn from it. Figure out into your head
yourself. How you can make the things better? How you can deal with it? and
then move on.
